Category: LGBT

Human Sexuality Defined

Human Sexuality Defined Ever since I started writing about human sexuality I realized that a lot of people really don’t even know what sexuality and orientation mean and how to use those terms. I think that one of the biggest reasons is because of…

The Choice That Never Was

  The Choice That Never Was I wanted to believe that my work of writing about this topic had since passed and that I would never again have to write in defense of it, of us, of the nature of our being.  Unfortunately we…

Transgender in America

Transgender in America In 2011 a survey conducted by famed demographer Gary Gates, for the Williams Institute under the U.C.L.A. School of Law, found that more than 700,000 American adults identified as transgender.  His follow-up survey published in June, 2016, by the same institute,…

Muslim Refugees, Christianity and the Future of Freedom

  Muslim Refugees, Christianity, and the Future of Freedom Vetting, the process of reviewing refugee candidates before they come into the U.S., should be a concern for all of us.  In this essay I will discuss why, but above all else I want you…

On Labels and Identity

On Labels and Identity Want to read something awkward and extremely personal? You know you want to, but if you don’t want to know about my sex life you should probably stop reading right here. Oh look at you continuing to read. I knew…

More Than Just Friends

More Than Just Friends Someone told me one night that I write because it’s how I come to understand things.  That through my writing I come to terms with things that once tormented me or what continues to torment, perplex or inspire me to…

Ubiquitous

Ubiquitous After nine years of living in my own self-created prison, locked away deep inside of myself, a place darkened by self-hatred, denial, fear, shame, and many other things, I opened the steel door that had long been my burden and for the first…

In My Own Words

**Note: this essay was written in 2012, I no longer identify under the label “gay”.  The word has too many restrictions, connotations, stereotypes and unintended meanings. July 2, 2012 In My Own Words It is fundamentally important to understand that people choose their religious…

If You Could Only See

(Please note that this piece was written prior to the Federal Supreme Court decision ruling it unconstitutional to deny same-sex couples the right to marry.) For a very long time, I’ve wanted to be able to write something that spelled out exactly why civil…

The Man In The Mirror

July 17, 2011 “The man who never learns to face himself, will never know what it means to be free.” The Man In The Mirror I ask myself why it bothers me so much that there are groups of people who take a strong…

Orientation: A Two-Thousand Word Essay

June 5, 2011 I ask myself whether we need to know and some people would say that it doesn’t matter, but for me it is important to know because to know or understand it, is to know or understand myself. Over the years I’ve…

Keep You: Part Two

March 19, 2011 You are so shy and so quiet, never wanting to be noticed.  Painfully introverted, you carry out entire conversations in your head, conversations you will probably never honestly have.  Your lips moving, but the sounds never come out.  I watch and…

Keep You: Part One

February 27, 2011 You grew up out in a rural part of the state of Missouri.  You consider yourself a small town guy, you know a lot of people, but you hold onto a few close friends.  Most of the people you know now that you…

A River of Undying Flames

December 31, 2010   A River of Undying Flames It is with personal feeling that I write this.  Without it, none of these words would ever mean as much as they do.  I once wrote that as a writer it is not my purpose to change…

Through My Eyes

November 29, 2010 “Because everywhere I go there is a world that doesn’t understand.” I would give up the rest of my life to show you how it feels, to make you see life through my eyes. If even for a moment, I could…

A Letter on the Intrinsic Threads of the Human Heart

October 2, 2010 Dear Whomever, For half a decade I have been sharing my deepest and often times my darkest thoughts with anyone who has wandered onto my path. I have shared my life, my private thoughts and my most personal of emotions in…

Rewriting the Psychology of Homosexuality

August 21, 2010 There is not a lot of information out there written by psychologists on homosexuality.  And the work that is out there is either for or against the acceptance of homosexuality, somehow negating the real issue of how to help young people…

Walk With Me

July 15, 2010 I was born on American soil, of German-American blood. With that birth I was guaranteed certain civil rights. And then one day I learned that one of those rights was no longer mine to claim. It has been taken from me,…

To Die In A Closet

“It never ceases to disappoint me how someone will be your friend, if only you will stand in the corner with a bag over your head. How can you call someone a friend if they embrace you in private, but deny you in public?…

The Audacity of Individuality

March 21, 2010 Ever feel pressure to conform to the standards of a social group in which you are forced to be a member? Well, I have and in multiple social groups. This writing is only about one of them, this is my middle…

The LGBT Community vs. The Rest of Society

July 18, 2009 The LGBT community is kind of a paradox to me. I think it’s great that people of similar struggles can come together to support eachother, but I see this ax as double edged. I think that in its efforts to offer…