Ch. 16. Alone In The Dark

Alone In The Dark:

Why Children Commit Suicide and How to Prevent It

From the year 2000 to the year 2014, more than 530,000 Americans committed suicide.  By the end of 2014 alone, the number of Americans of all genders and all age ranges that had completed suicide that year was 42,773.  It was the highest number in one year during the fourteen year period since 2000.  For comparison, during 2014 there were 37,195 Americans who died in motor vehicle accidents.

Further, the yearly total of Americans committing suicide has continually and dramatically risen each year since 2000, where as the number of deaths due to motor vehicle accidents has continued to drop since 2006, except for 2012 when deaths rose to 38,251.

While the elderly have the highest rates of suicide, followed by those of middle-age and young adults and teens respectively, children under the age of 14, and even as young as 5, also commit suicide.

In 2006 there were only fifty-six known cases of children under the age of 12 who had committed suicide.  Of those children, forty-five were boys, which coincides with the trend that about 79% of all suicide victims in all age groups are males, despite the fact that girls attempt suicide more often than boys.  In 2013 there were 395 cases of child suicides for the age group 5 to 14.  Self-harm and suicide attempts among children under the age of 14 has doubled since 2006.

According to population reports from the United States Census Bureau, there were 73.6 million children aged 17 and under in the United States in 2014.  According to the World Health Organization, during that same year in the U.S., one in every 100,000 boys aged 14 and under committed suicide.  For boys aged 15 to 24, nearly eighteen in every 100,000 committed suicide.  For men 75 and older, thirty-eight out of every 100,000 committed suicide.

From 2008 to 2015, there were 118,000 children between the ages of 5 and 17 admitted to thirty-two hospitals across the country who expressed suicidal thoughts or the desire to harm themselves.

Most children under 14 who commit suicide do so by hanging or suffocation at home, often in their bedroom.  Of those, most have attempted it at least once before, often without anyone knowing about it.  In fact, it’s estimated that for every one child that commits suicide, a dozen others have already attempted it or have thought about attempting it.

The decision to complete suicide in children under the age of 14 is almost always impulsive and reactionary to an external stimulus, in all cases they feel alone and helpless in what they’re dealing with.

This impulsive nature, makes it very difficult to prevent child suicide because a child can appear energetic and seemingly happy in one moment, and then one negative experience later they may make the decision to end their life without fully grasping the finality of the act or how circumstances can change over time.

For teens and older age groups, depression is often directly involved, so much so that two-thirds of all suicides in these age groups are connected to depression, often spanning years.

Children on the other hand, do not fit into this statistic.  Less than half of child suicide victims experience depression and for them it occurs on a rapid scale of days or weeks prior to completing suicide.  It’s important to note that over half of all children who commit suicide had previously been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD.

The majority of child suicides are preceded by a conflict with a parent, friend, classmates, and social interactions online.  In recent years, these conflicts increasingly include social media in one way or another.  Either the child vents frustration, stress, or anxiety online prior to completing suicide, or the conflict itself unfolds online, leading the child to later commit suicide.

Despite their impulsive nature, there are warning signs that a child may attempt suicide that can be observed.  Mood is always a key factor to monitor, this would include anger, aggression, irritability, frequent crying or easily triggered by sadness, disinterest in previously favored activities, constant involvement in physical fights, theft, constantly withdrawing from social interactions, and refusing to go to school.

Aside from mood, children often let slip thoughts they’ve been thinking, especially when they get frustrated or angry.  Phrases such as, “I wish I were dead,” “I hate being alive,” “I just want to die,” “I wish I could go to sleep and never wake up,” “I just want to sleep forever,” are all red flags.

Phrases like these are tell-tale signs a child has witnessed or is experiencing something that is causing them a lot of anxiety or stress that is beyond their ability to cope with alone and that they have begun viewing death as an escape.

A child’s impulsive desire to commit suicide is met by a desire to escape something they cannot process or handle.  Trauma, fear, neglect, abandonment, harassment, bullying, verbal or emotional conflict or threats, embarrassment, physical assault, hazing, sexual abuse, can all precipitate a suicide attempt in children.

Another common behavior in children with a risk of suicide is self-harm or self-injury.  Prior to attempting suicide, children will intentionally harm themselves or engage in risk-taking where they can be injured.

Like teens and young adults, children tend to blow events out of proportion and become consumed by them.  What may seem like a trivial event or temporary circumstance to you, may appear to be life shattering, permanent or inescapable to a child.

Most children seldom anticipate life beyond several days into the future and it’s due to the ongoing development of their brain.  They are simply not yet cognitively able to anticipate life that far into the future or imagine how the circumstances of their life can be drastically different years, months, or even just weeks into the future.

This inability to envision a distant future adds to a child’s belief that current events or circumstances are unchanging, are unable to be fixed, are unavoidable, unforgivable, or unending.

Whether with parents, teachers, or mentors, it is fundamentally important that a child have an open relationship with an adult or young adult to whom they look up to and can communicate with freely and rely on for advice, encouragement, safety, emotional support and stability.

Giving a child the opportunity to talk about things without judgement and without repercussions is absolutely essential for a trusting, honest, and open relationship, the sort that could, if need be, save them from making an impulsive and life-ending decision.

After discovery or intervention, appropriate pediatric counseling should be initiated in children who have attempted suicide or are showing suicidal ideology.  Never assume it’s a phase or that they are too young to be suicidal.  Mental health care is as equally important in children as teens and adults, giving them the skills they need to better deal with issues they are facing and will face in the future.

Sources of data included reports and publications from the following: