Category: Miscellaneous
Essays about random things
Posted on April 24, 2021
by Kēphen
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Your first question after reading the title is probably “What is emotional impotence?” Emotional Impotence is a term sometimes used in behavioral health, also often called toxic positivity or chronic optimism, and refers to the act of compartmentalizing or dismissing negative and often traumatic… Continue Reading “How to Practice Empathy and Prevent Emotional Impotence”
Category: All, Behavioral Health, Human Condition, Kephen's Commentary, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, Advice on Expressions of Sympathy, Apathy, Chronic Optimism, Emotional Impotence, Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Understanding, Empathy, How to Practice Empathy, How to Talk to a Grieving Parent, How to Talk to a Grieving Spouse, Human Connection, Human Interaction, Social Behavior, Social Skills, Speaking to the Bereaved, Sympathy, Talking About Grief, Toxic Positivity
Posted on October 24, 2020
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I’m a descriptive writer, I love details, analogies, essays and creativity. Someone told me one night that I write because it’s how I come to understand things. That through my writing I come to terms with things that once tormented me or that continues… Continue Reading “Companionship: Love Not Lust”
Category: All, Human Condition, LGBTQ+, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, Bisexual, Companionship, Dating, Gay, LGBTQ+, Male Bonding, Masculinity, Men, Relationships
Posted on April 4, 2020
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The reality is life is hard and sometimes even painful, but so is the truth. We shouldn’t cover up the truth and we shouldn’t hide from life out of fear of or submission to hardship and pain. Many of us have things in our… Continue Reading “The Power and Truth of Self-Awareness”
Category: All, Behavioral Health, Human Condition, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, Behavioral Health, Emotional Control, Emotional Intelligence, Julian Rotter, Marcus Aurelius, Self-awareness, Self-control, Self-regulation, Viktor Frankl
Posted on April 16, 2019
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The Dying Light of Unrequited Love We spend most of our lives trying to emotionally connect with other people, only to realize that we cannot emotionally connect with most of the people we meet. I could probably write a book about the experiences I’ve… Continue Reading “The Dying Light of Unrequited Love”
Category: All, Human Condition, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, Ambiguous, Betrayel, Emotional Attachment, Emotional Connection, Friend-Zone, Friendship, Human Connection, Love, Mixed Signals, Unrequited Love, Used
Posted on January 2, 2019
by Kēphen
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Love Me Not:A Conversation About Mental Health & Relationships If you’ve read my previous work, you know that I’m often very personal and brutally honest about my experiences and my mistakes. This essay will be no different. I want to share with you some… Continue Reading “Love Me Not”
Category: All, Behavioral Health, Human Condition, LGBTQ+, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, American Midwest, Behavioral Health, Boyhood, Bullying, Coming of Age, Dating, Erectile Dysfunction, Growing Up, Homophobia, Life, Mental Health, Mental Illness, Orientation, Performance Anxiety, Relationships, Repressed, Romance, Self-Hatred, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexual Experiences, Sexuality
Posted on October 22, 2018
by Kēphen
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[Reader Discretion Strongly Advised: this article discusses the sexual assault of men and boys and may not be appropriate for readers under the age of thirteen, it may also be triggering for those who have experienced similar trauma. Resources and reading recommendations follow the… Continue Reading “The Past That’s Not Forgotten”
Category: All, Human Condition, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, Childhood Sexual Abuse, Grooming, Male on Male Rape, Male Rape, Male Sexual Abuse, Male Sexual Assault, Molestation, Predatory Grooming, Prolonged Sexual Abuse, Sextortion, Sexual Assault on Boys, Sexual Assault on Men, Sexual Exploitation, Sexual Extortion, Sexual Predators, Sodomy, Statistics, Survivors, Teen Sexual Assault, Victims of Sexual Abuse, Victims of Sexual Assault
Posted on September 22, 2018
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In the Twilight of Memory Calling to me in the distance, I can hear them all say my name. Reaching out from the past, from moments that used to be. I drift beyond the precipice of wakefulness, I let go of my consciousness and… Continue Reading “In the Twilight of Memory”
Posted on September 20, 2018
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My name is Kephen Merancis and there’s really no easy way to start the conversation that we need to have. It takes a lot of courage to break the wall of silence that stigma builds. It takes at least a little bit of hope… Continue Reading “Out of the Darkness: My Experience with a Mental Health Condition”
Category: All, Behavioral Health, Human Condition, Kephen's Commentary, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, Behavioral Health, Bi-polar Disorder, Depression, MCRD, Mental Health, Mental Illness, San Diego, Suicide Awareness, Suicide Prevention, USMC
Posted on June 9, 2018
by Kēphen
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To be Acknowledged as Existing 7,432 Americans will wake up today to what will be their last day alive, most of whom will not know this ahead of time. According to the American mortality rate published in 2016 by the National Center for Health… Continue Reading “To Be Acknowledged As Existing”
Category: All, Human Condition, Kephen's Commentary, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, Appreciation, Awareness, Friends, Friendship, Gratitude, Lessons on Living, Love, Loved Ones, Positive Influence, Thich Nhat Hanh, What Matters
Posted on April 6, 2018
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Following an extended period of depression, a friend of mine carved this into a park bench after contemplating suicide. He sent me the photo and I’ve kept it because I think it holds a powerful message. Choose To Live Do something that scares you.… Continue Reading “Choose To Live”
Category: All, Behavioral Health, Human Condition, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, Awareness, Death, Life, Live, Mindfulness, Mortality, Thrive
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How to Practice Empathy and Prevent Emotional Impotence
Posted on April 24, 2021 by Kēphen
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Your first question after reading the title is probably “What is emotional impotence?” Emotional Impotence is a term sometimes used in behavioral health, also often called toxic positivity or chronic optimism, and refers to the act of compartmentalizing or dismissing negative and often traumatic… Continue Reading “How to Practice Empathy and Prevent Emotional Impotence”
Category: All, Behavioral Health, Human Condition, Kephen's Commentary, MiscellaneousTags: *See All Posts, Advice on Expressions of Sympathy, Apathy, Chronic Optimism, Emotional Impotence, Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Understanding, Empathy, How to Practice Empathy, How to Talk to a Grieving Parent, How to Talk to a Grieving Spouse, Human Connection, Human Interaction, Social Behavior, Social Skills, Speaking to the Bereaved, Sympathy, Talking About Grief, Toxic Positivity